You might think that we, at The Happy World Company, might get really excited at the prospect of New Year's Resolutions. Who wants to be happier? We all do! And that means something needs to change for the better, so how better to go about it than to resolve something for the new year.
But nope..... we don't really do resolutions.
Instead, we say.... Do away with New Year's Resolutions once and for all with this one, simple easy-to-implement strategy.
Chances are that if your resolutions are working well for you, you're doing the sort of thinking we advise anyway. If like most people your resolutions aren't working out for you, what are you going to do differently? You need a change of strategy, and we're here to help.
Here's the only resolution you need: Regularly ask yourself, 'What do I want to happen next?' and then act on it.
Now this doesn't sound very spectacular does it.... it's not especially sexy or enticing.... it isn't promising to solve a confidence issue or giving a sure strategy to a better salary in three months time. But don't be fooled..... this strategy is amazingly powerful. And it might help with those things too. In fact, it probably will.
According to our Happy World Company founder, Nerea Carryon, thinking this way will do away with your need for making New Year's resolutions altogether. By the time next New Year comes around, you will already be much more in touch with yourself deep down, much more in tune with your wants and needs, more able to find solutions to achieve them, and more hopeful about your future.
You won't need to make any resolutions next year, because you will already be on the path to creating a great future for yourself every day.
So how does it work?
It's a simple idea, but needs a little unpacking. Be sure to send us your comments, questions and thoughts so we can fine tune our advice to help you even more.
- Notice that you need to ask the question. This takes some practice. There's no wrong time to ask it... when you're under pressure, when you are feeling happy, when you are frustrated, when you feel powerless... these are all great times. Just ask. 'What do I want to happen next?'For example, you're going for a haircut... what do you want to happen next? Do you want to stick with your same look and enjoy keeping your appearance as it is, or do you want to experiment and try something a little new? Or a lot new?
- Go deep. You can't just answer 'Eat chocolate cake' every time.... if you do, you will eventually not want that any more! Answer, but keep asking why. Get to the bottom of what you really want – think carefully about what's really at the root of your desires. Now about that haircut... why do you want to stick with the same cut? Is it so you are seen at work as reliable and dedicated, and this will serve your bigger goals? Or is it because you're fearful of change, or don't feel confident to try something new? Is what you really want to feel confident? And is that going to be better achieved with the same cut or something new? It's worth asking!
- Act on it. You might decide to plan a whole strategy, but you don't really need to do that... you just need one clear action that you can do which takes you toward your stated aim. Back to those haircuts... if you've got the root of what is motivating you (let's say it's to gain more confidence) then you will know right away which is the right decision for you, and you can act on it immediately. If you don't feel motivated to act on it, then you may not have got to the root of the issue, and need to go back to step 2.
It takes some practice to get good at this, and it also takes time to tune into yourself well enough to really hear and interpret that voice inside – your true self speaking with authenticity and clarity about what you really need and want from life.
As resolutions go, this is one to keep up with. It doesn't require any money, and the time it takes can be found on your commute, while you fold laundry or clean the bathroom, or our favourite, in the shower or bath. Post this question on your wall. Put 'Why' on your mirror or phone wallpaper. Do the work of asking, and asking and asking... you may be surprised what answers you get. Practice, like playing piano, will lead you to playing your life as if it was a symphonic concerto.
It's worth that investment to ask these questions until have some answers that you feel happy and settled with.
So... do you want to lose weight? Want a better job? Need more time with your kids? Choose your favourite piece of 'this isn't working for me' in your life, and start digging deeper... asking what else is underneath that desire, what will happen if you do get it, what will happen if you don't. Be an investigative journalist into your own motivations.
We have a number of upcoming EVENTS which will help you feel more in tune with yourself, more empowered in your capabilities and happier with yourself. If you've never tried something like this give it a whirl and surprise yourself!
If you'd like some support getting started on getting your life into the shape you want for it, book your first FREE COACHING SESSION.
If you're interested in a WORKSHOP on THE POWER OF WHAT HAPPENS NEXT, get in touch and we will let you know as soon as workshop dates are announced.
And don't forget to give us your comments, questions and thoughts below... tell us your worries about it before you try it, your concerns or surprises once you have tried it, or your struggles as you try it..... but just TRY IT! Let us know how you get on …. get involved in the conversation.
Written and conceived by Heidi Hollis